The
owners acknowledge that their house is in poor condition, but they have decided
to restore it.
WOULD you like to do the same with your
marriage? If so, where can you begin? Try the following suggestions.
1
Make a resolve.
Agree with your mate that you will work
together to restore peace to your marriage. Try writing your decisions on
paper. When both you and your spouse are committed, saving your marriage
becomes a team project.—Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10.
2
Identify the problem.
What is it that has interfered with your
marriage? In one sentence, write out what you think is lacking or what you wish
could change. (Ephesians 4:22-24) Understandably, the problem you identify may
be different from that noted by your spouse.
3
Set a goal.
Where would you like your marriage to be six
months from now? What specific improvements would you like to see? Write your
goal on paper. When you have a clear vision as to what you need in your
marriage, your goal will be easier to attain.—1 Corinthians 9:26.
4
Apply Bible counsel.
Once you have identified your problem and
determined the improvements you would like to make, look to the Bible for
advice. Its principles are timeless, and they really work. (Isaiah 48:17; 2 Timothy
3:17) For example, the Bible encourages you and your spouse to be forgiving.
Indeed, the Bible says that “it is beauty . . . to pass over
transgression.”—Proverbs 19:11; Ephesians 4:32.
Even if at first your efforts seem futile, do
not give up! The book The Case for Marriage reports the encouraging
results of one study, stating: “The truth is shocking: 86 percent of
unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their
marriages are happier.” Even couples who described themselves as very unhappy
experienced a turnaround.
Perhaps the same can be true for you. The
publishers of this magazine, Jehovah’s Witnesses, have found that the Bible
provides practical principles for married couples. For instance, many marriages
improve when spouses are kind and tenderly compassionate and freely forgive
each other. Wives have learned the value of displaying a “quiet and mild
spirit,” and husbands have experienced the benefits of not being bitterly angry
with their wives.—1 Peter 3:4; Colossians 3:19.
These Scriptural principles are effective
because the Bible’s Author, Jehovah God, created the marriage arrangement. Why
not ask Jehovah’s Witnesses for more information on how the Bible can help your
marriage?
[Footnote]
To help families, Jehovah’s Witnesses have
published a 192-page book entitled The Secret of Family Happiness. Write to the
publishers at the address show at www.jw.org.
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