Article 16
What is needed to be a good husband?
How can a woman succeed as a wife?
What is involved in being a fine parent?
How can children help to make family life happy?
JEHOVAH GOD wants your family life to be
happy. His Word, the Bible, provides guidelines for each family member,
describing the role that God wants each one to play. When family members
fulfill their roles in harmony with God’s counsel, the results are very
satisfying. Jesus said: “Happy are those hearing the word of God and keeping
it!”—Luke 11:28.
Family
happiness depends mainly on our recognizing that the family originates with
Jehovah, the one Jesus called “Our Father.” (Matthew 6:9) Every family on earth exists because of our heavenly
Father—and he certainly knows what makes families happy. (Ephesians 3:14, 15) So, what does the Bible teach about the
role of each family member?
DIVINE ORIGIN OF
HUMAN FAMILY
Jehovah created the first humans, Adam and
Eve, and brought them together as husband and wife. He put them in a beautiful
earthly paradise home—the garden of Eden—and told them to have children. “Be
fruitful and become many and fill the earth,” said Jehovah. (Genesis 1:26-28; 2:18, 21-24) This is
not just a story or a myth, for Jesus showed that what Genesis says about the
start of family life is true. (Matthew
19:4, 5) Although we face many problems and life now is not as God
purposed it to be, let us see why happiness within the family is possible.
Each member of the family can help to make
family life happy by imitating God in showing love. (Ephesians 5:1, 2) How, though, can we imitate God, since we
cannot even see him? We can learn how Jehovah acts because he sent his
firstborn Son from heaven to the earth. (John
1:14, 18) When on earth, this Son, Jesus Christ, imitated his heavenly
Father so well that seeing and listening to Jesus was just like being with
Jehovah and hearing Him. (John 14:9)
Therefore, by learning about the love that Jesus showed and following his
example, each one of us can help to make family life happier.
A MODEL FOR
HUSBANDS
The
Bible says that husbands should treat their wives in the same way that Jesus
treats his disciples. Consider this Bible direction: “Husbands, continue loving
your wives, just as the Christ also loved
the congregation and delivered up himself
for it . . . In this way husbands ought to be loving
their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no
man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it, as the
Christ also does the congregation.”—Ephesians 5:23, 25-29.
Jesus’
love for his congregation of disciples sets a perfect example for husbands.
Jesus “loved them to the end,” sacrificing his life for them, even though they
were far from perfect. (John 13:1;
15:13) Similarly, husbands are urged: “Keep on loving your
wives and do not be bitterly angry with them.” (Colossians 3:19) What will help a husband to apply such counsel, especially
if his wife at times fails to act with discretion? He should remember his own
mistakes and what he must do to receive God’s forgiveness. What is that? He
must forgive those who sin against him, and that includes his wife. Of course,
she should do the same. (Matthew 6:12,
14, 15) Do you see why some have said that a successful marriage is
the union of two good forgivers?
Husbands also do well to note that Jesus
always showed consideration for his disciples. He took into account their
limitations and physical needs. When they were tired, for example, he said: “Come,
you yourselves, privately into a lonely place and rest up a bit.” (Mark 6:30-32) Wives too deserve
thoughtful consideration. The Bible describes them as “a weaker vessel” to whom
husbands are commanded to assign “honor.” Why? Because both husbands and wives
share equally in “the undeserved favor of life.” (1 Peter 3:7) Husbands should remember that it is
faithfulness, not whether a person is male or female, that makes one precious
to God.—Psalm 101:6.
The Bible says that a husband “who loves his
wife loves himself.” This is because a man and his wife “are no longer two, but
one flesh,” as Jesus pointed out. (Matthew 19:6) So they
must limit their sexual interests to each other. (Proverbs 5:15-21; Hebrews
13:4) They can do this if they show unselfish concern for each other’s
needs. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
Noteworthy is the reminder: “No man ever hated his own flesh; but
he feeds and cherishes it.” Husbands need to
love their wives as they do themselves, remembering that they are accountable
to their own head, Jesus Christ.—Ephesians
5:29; 1 Corinthians 11:3.
The apostle Paul spoke of the ‘tender
affection that Christ Jesus has.’ (Philippians
1:8) Jesus’ tenderness was a
refreshing quality, one that was appealing to women who became his disciples. (John 20:1, 11-13, 16) And wives
yearn for tender affection from their husbands.
AN EXAMPLE FOR
WIVES
A family is an organization, and to operate
smoothly, it needs a head. Even Jesus has One he submits to as his Head. “The
head of the Christ is God,” just as “the head of a woman is the man.” (1 Corinthians 11:3) Jesus’
submission to God’s headship is a fine example, since all of us have a head to
whom we must submit.
Imperfect men make mistakes and often fall far
short of being ideal family heads. So, what should a wife do? She should not
belittle what her husband does or try to take over his headship. A wife does
well to remember that in God’s view, a quiet and mild spirit is of great value. (1 Peter 3:4) By displaying such
a spirit, she will find it easier to demonstrate godly subjection, even under
trying circumstances. Furthermore, the Bible says: “The wife should have deep
respect for her husband.” (Ephesians
5:33) But what if he does not accept Christ as his Head? The Bible urges
wives: “Be in subjection to your own husbands, in order that, if any are not
obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of
their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct
together with deep respect.”—1 Peter
3:1, 2.
Whether her husband is a fellow believer or
not, a wife is not showing disrespect if she tactfully expresses an opinion
that differs from his. Her viewpoint may be correct, and the whole family could
benefit if he listened to her. Although Abraham did not agree when his wife,
Sarah, recommended a practical solution to a certain household problem, God
told him: “Listen to her voice.”
(Genesis 21:9-12) Of course, when a husband makes a final decision that
does not conflict with God’s law, his wife shows her subjection by supporting
it.—Acts 5:29; Ephesians 5:24.
In
fulfilling her role, a wife can do much in caring for the family. For example,
the Bible shows that married women are “to love their husbands, to love their
children, to be sound in mind, chaste, workers at home, good, subjecting
themselves to their own husbands.”
(Titus 2:4, 5) A wife and mother who acts in this way will gain the
lasting love and respect of her family. (Proverbs
31:10, 28) Since marriage is a union of imperfect individuals,
however, some extreme circumstances may result in separation or divorce. The
Bible allows for separation under certain circumstances. Yet, separation must
not be taken lightly, for the Bible counsels: “A wife should not depart from
her husband; . . . and a husband should not leave his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11) And
only fornication by one of the marriage mates provides Scriptural grounds for
divorce.—Matthew 19:9.
A PERFECT EXAMPLE
FOR PARENTS
Jesus
set a perfect example for parents in the way he treated children. When others
tried to prevent the little ones from approaching Jesus, he said: “Let the
young children come to me; do not try to stop them.” The Bible says that he
then “took the children into his arms and began blessing them, laying his hands
upon them.” (Mark 10:13-16) Since
Jesus took time for little ones, should you not do the same for your own sons
and daughters? They need, not small bits of your time, but large amounts of it.
You need to take time to teach them, for that is what Jehovah instructs parents
to do.—Deuteronomy 6:4-9.
As
this world becomes ever more wicked, children need parents who will protect
them from people who seek to harm them, such as sexual predators. Consider how
Jesus protected his disciples, whom he affectionately called “little children.”
When he was arrested and would soon be killed, Jesus made a way for them to
escape. (John 13:33; 18:7-9) As a
parent, you need to be alert to the Devil’s attempts to harm your little ones.
You need to give them advance warning. (1 Peter
5:8) Never before has the threat to their physical, spiritual, and moral
safety been greater.
On the
night before Jesus died, his disciples argued about who was greater among them.
Rather than become angry with them, Jesus lovingly continued to appeal to them
by word and example. (Luke 22:24-27;
John 13:3-8) If you are a parent, can you see how you might follow Jesus’
example in the way you correct your children? True, they need discipline, but
it should be given to “the proper degree” and never in anger. You would not
want to speak thoughtlessly “as with the stabs of a sword.” (Jeremiah 30:11; Proverbs 12:18)
Discipline should be delivered in such a way that your child will later see how
appropriate it was.—Ephesians 6:4;
Hebrews 12:9-11.
A MODEL FOR
CHILDREN
Can
children learn from Jesus? Yes, they can! By his own example, Jesus showed how
children should obey their parents. “Just as the Father taught me,” he said, “I
speak.” He added: “I always do the things pleasing to him.” (John 8:28, 29) Jesus was obedient
to his heavenly Father, and the Bible tells children to obey their parents. (Ephesians 6:1-3) Although Jesus was a
perfect child, he obeyed his human parents, Joseph and Mary, who were
imperfect. That surely contributed to the happiness of every member of Jesus’
family!—Luke 2:4, 5, 51, 52.
Can
children see ways that they can be more like Jesus and make their parents
happy? True, young ones may sometimes find it hard to obey their parents, but
that is what God wants children to do. (Proverbs
1:8; 6:20) Jesus always obeyed his heavenly Father, even under difficult
circumstances. Once, when it was God’s will that Jesus do something especially
hard, Jesus said: “Remove this cup [a certain requirement] from me.”
Nevertheless, Jesus did what God asked, because he realized that his Father
knew best. (Luke 22:42) By learning
to be obedient, children will make their parents and their heavenly Father very
happy.—Proverbs 23:22-25.
The Devil tempted Jesus, and we can be sure
that he will also tempt young ones to do what is wrong. (Matthew 4:1-10) Satan the Devil uses peer pressure, which can be hard
to resist. How vital it is, then, that children not keep company with
wrongdoers! (1 Corinthians 15:33)
Jacob’s daughter Dinah kept company with those who did not worship Jehovah, and
this led to a lot of trouble. (Genesis
34:1, 2) Think of how the family could be hurt if one of its members
were to become involved in sexual immorality!—Proverbs 17:21, 25.
THE KEY TO
FAMILY HAPPINESS
Family
problems are easier to cope with when Bible counsel is applied. In fact,
applying such counsel is the key to family happiness. So husbands, love your
wife, and treat her as Jesus treats his congregation. Wives, submit to the
headship of your husband, and follow the example of the capable wife described
at Proverbs 31:10-31. Parents,
train your children. (Proverbs 22:6)
Fathers, ‘preside over your household in a fine manner.’ (1 Timothy 3:4, 5; 5:8) And children, obey your
parents. (Colossians 3:20) None in
the family are perfect, for all make mistakes. So be humble, asking one another
for forgiveness.
Truly,
the Bible contains a wealth of valuable counsel and instruction regarding
family life. Moreover, it teaches us about God’s new world and an earthly
paradise filled with happy people who worship Jehovah. (Revelation 21:3, 4) What wonderful prospects lie ahead! Even
now, we can enjoy happy family life by applying God’s instructions found in his
Word, the Bible.
[Footnotes]
Help in protecting children is found in
chapter 32 of the book Learn From the Great Teacher,
published by Jehovah’s Witnesses. www.jw.org
Only if a parent asked a child to break God’s
law would it be right for the child to disobey.—Acts 5:29.
WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES
▪ Husbands need to love their wives as their
own bodies.—Ephesians 5:25-29.
▪ Wives should love their family and respect
their husbands.—Titus 2:4, 5.
▪ Parents need to love, teach, and protect
their children.—Deuteronomy 6:4-9.
▪ Children need to obey their parents.—Ephesians 6:1-3.
For more information
please see the book ‘What Does the Bible REALLY Teach?’ at
www.jw.org
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